Bereavement Group

The death of husband, wife, daughter, son, grandchild, colleague or close friend can be shattering and is a life changing experience; life the way we know it will never be the same again.  Everyone reacts differently to their grief and there is no right or wrong way to grieve. How we grieve will be influenced by many different things, our age, our personality, our cultural background, religious beliefs, our previous experiences of bereavement and our circumstances.

When someone has been bereaved they will feel denial, anger, resentment, sadness, numbness, disbelief, guilt, isolation, loss of purpose and that no one understands what they are feeling or going through.  One way of helping to deal with these feelings is by attending a bereavement group where they will find support and the opportunity to talk about their feelings and share memories of their loved one with other people who have been bereaved. People who attend these groups may have been bereaved recently, a few months ago or some years ago. It doesn’t matter when they were bereaved, grief can hit you at any time.

Death is the one sure thing in life that we know is going to happen, but we pretend that it is not going to, and because of this we have become a death denying society.  When someone we know has recently been bereaved we don’t always know what to say or how to react to the bereaved person.  Which is why it is so important that the bereaved person has somewhere they can go and be able to talk about their loved one.

The Heacham Bereavement Group is held in St Mary’s Church Hall, Heacham on the 3rd Thursday of each month from 10 o’clock till 12 o’clock. It is an opportunity for people to drop in for a cup of coffee, to share memories and find some support and advice. My name is Sue Spencer and I run the group. I have been working in the Hospice movement for the last 20 years as a Specialist Nurse, the last 3 ½ at Norfolk Hospice, Tapping House.